You are probably thinking not another bullshit post about lasting longer in bed right?
Sick of hearing people giving you tips like don’t be nervous, don’t focus on the sensations or think about something disturbing and what about the good old just change positions advice ?
Forget all that generic advice.
I have some solutions for you men that need some help with lasting longer in bed.
Some of these suggestions might sound taboo or sleazy but they are not. For example Numbing the penis or you could say to reduce the sensitivity may sound taboo or even sleazy. But the truth is this practice has been practiced for hundreds of years by Taoists. Don’t believe me? Well check out this interesting book Tao of sexolofy by Stephen T. Chang.
Before we go on to these techniques I think its important for you to actually understand what is considered a long sexual interaction. Society naturally forces us to place high expectations on ourselves. The truth is when it comes to impressing the ladies in the sack you might be doing better than you believe.
What is considered a long time?
According to studies Statistically speaking, a 2005 study found that sex lasts 5.4 minutes on average, although that data does not take into account foreplay.
Not many men are performing like stallions these days. So take it easy on yourself.
Don’t forget her orgasm is also her responsibility
If you have done your best and she doesn’t achieve an orgasm don’t take it personal or blame yourself for not lasting longer. It’s mostly her responsibility to be able to achieve an orgasm. It takes 2 to tango.
According to Planned Parenthood statistics, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex. And as many as 80 percent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone.
There can be many reasons why she cant achieve an orgasm and a majority of them most likely don’t involve you.
If your partner doesn’t have orgasms occasionally. It is something worth brining up with her. Generally if a woman cant give herself an orgasm via self pleasure it will be harder for her to have one during sex.
Women who are comfortable with themselves and understand their body’s pleasure points can often learn to orgasm regularly.
That being said lets get back on track. Here are 3 non mainstream ways to last longer in bed.
Bathmate Hydropump numbing the penis to Last Longer
Men swear by this pump not just because it enlarges the size of their member but because it reduces the sensitivity of your penis for a short period of time after use.
So not only will your penis be bigger you will be able to last longer.
Reducing sensitivity of the penis allows you to last longer with you enjoying the full experience since you wont have to practice some awkward technique during sex.
Another point to make is if you have a thick member you don’t actually have to last longer, a thick penis can bring a women to orgasm within minutes and even in seconds. The hydropump can help you achieve this.
In this study they discovered women would rather a thick penis over a long one.
So if you don’t find penis pumps taboo you could find it entertaining to give one a try , the words most popular pump offers a 60 day refund policy if you don’t see results.
Do kegels to last longer
I have mentioned kegels before and are a big fan of this exercise. The problem is most men don’t see its full benefits due to not sticking to a proper routine.
Yet again Kegels have been a practice that has been used for thousands of years. Its not weird or taboo. In fact everyone should be doing them due to their health benefits.
You can become so good at kegels you can actually completely stop ejaculation at will (this will only happen if you follow a routine).
Kegels also have many other benefits such as increasing erection strength and angle.
To learn more about kegels you can check out my post (Why women love men that do kegels – Increasing erection strength with kegels).
Penis desensitizer spray
I had a mate that worshiped this stuff, a couple of sprays and you are good to go. I have never used this stuff myself but from reading many reviews it seems to do the trick. It is also very convenient as you can take it with you wherever you travel.
If you think desensitizing your penis is weird and only done by self obsessed men “don’t’’. Numbing the penis to increase sexual duration has been practiced for hundreds of years. Taoist of sexology recommend this but with a different technique. Be careful with your spray selection though. This seems to be the go to spray (Promescent Desensitizing Delay Spray for Men).
It is recommended to wear a condom when using the spray to prevent it from transferring onto your sexual partner. If you don’t want to use chemicals I understand and it might be a good idea to just stick with the bathmate method of desensitizing your penis.
This advice may be non mainstream but it might be what you need to get some fast results and save you from many more embarrassing nights. Dont forget to not put too much pressure on yourself and to be careful with using these tips. For more information visit the links provided above in the post.